When I was a kid there were boy toys and girl toys and gender neutral toys too. Gender wasn’t a huge deal when it came to our toys; I liked Legos even if they were not pink. I didn’t mind playing with Mr. Potato Head, I like his wife too but I really didn’t care. What I see today is this advocacy for children to be accepted for who they are, which is ideal but the advocacy is pushing for Genders to be even more divided.
My son has enjoyed playing dress up with the females in his life since he was a toddler; he has no qualms over wearing a dress or high heels and he likes to play Barbies but not for one moment have I thought that this meant that my son was gay (if he is; I don’t care anyways). I know that Liam chooses these things because he lives with older sisters, it is what is familiar and acceptable in our home but I still think he needs to pee in the boys room. Children are incredibly impressionable and they are programmed to be pleasers; they may be defiant but they do not want to disappoint what they perceive to be their parents expectations.
For example; Your 4 year old son may love wearing dresses but it may not be because he “should have been born a girl”. Maybe, just maybe, it is more comfortable and easy access to go pee; you just lift and aim; Functionality and Ease? That is every little boy’s dream!! I know that every parent comes from a place of love and concern for their child’s well-being but I also think too much intervention can cause problems not only for the child but for the world too.
Does that sound dramatic? Probably but think about it. While we have gender identity advocacy, we are now faced with the biggest division of Gender specific toys and it is affecting the way our children are playing.
With the permission of my friend, I have chosen to include her story she posted on FaceBook yesterday regarding her gender excluding toy experience.